I have been spending (wasting) a lot of my time on a media driven network that they call tumblr. The base demographic is very diverse, however, the majority of it consists of users in their mid-teens, so the common content is highly sexual, often contains drugs and/or references, and with a very vigilant attitude to rage against a machine they have yet to fully understand. Surely, their mindset is nothing new, only now have they the opportunity to indulge, maybe even exercise it, with a global audience. I am positive there are sexual predators among them dropping subtle bombs to divert the path of social danger and awareness to invoke a consensus that there is no harm in doing wrong. I strongly believe that everybody has the right to make mistakes, but some are best avoided, as they will change the course of their lives. Wisdom is meant to try and help keep our young from living in repetition.
Anyway, that is something this article really isn’t about. I don’t involve myself in most communities, I will maintain a presence but I prefer to sit back and observe. When something occurs that needs my attention, usually I have learned enough about those involved to know exactly what to do. Something in particular has grabbed my attention as it streams across my media feed quite often. The common perception of what the majority of guys define as beauty, according to teenage girls, is that they must be skinny. They look for the source of this reasoning and have apparently settled on blaming “society” for this so-called illusion. That couldn’t be further from the truth, it is quite near sighted.
What a females weight indicates to a male, naturally, is whether or not she is healthy. I know this argument can be pulled in every direction and many will claim that an obese person is not necessarily unhealthy. The fact is, being over-weight is simply unhealthy, whether it is induced by a biological disorder or the more common means, consistently consuming a bad diet and not moving enough to balance it. Every sustainable system works in a cycle, and what this cycle needs is balance among a very complicated array of other functions that bring order and stability. It is just one of many supporting spokes in the wheel that supports its rotation. These are necessary elements. So, say I look at a clearly over-weight girl, what this communicates to me is that she is lousy at taking care of herself, or perhaps lazy. If she fails at taking care of herself, this tells me she is not adequate to mother my children. It is as simple as that.
On the contrary, it works both ways. Being too skinny can be just as unhealthy. I have yet to explain how drastic of an impact your body weight actually has on the organs cooperating to keep you breathing. I’m not a Doctor, I have studied many different fields but medicine is not one of them. I assumed it was common sense, both fat and skinny weighs heavily on critical organs such as the heart and lungs. It is a form of asphyxiation. Not only does it tell me how productive a mother she would make, but also when she is likely to be deceased in my children’s lifetime. Saying “fuck society” is quite irrelevant, as society has nothing to do with what is seen as beautiful. Maybe it’s just me, but the real attraction is in somebodies health. Generally, being healthy results in a much better physical body.
We come to the point of societal conditioning. It seems to be common to place responsibility on society for the things that others do. I think people often forget that society isn’t a governmental institution, it is not even a culture, in fact, culture helps carve the mores and norms of society itself. Society is a product of us all, collectively, and it differs across regions of the world. An interesting fact is that morality is innate and universal, beauty seems to be governed by the same universalism. The only way to change it is to lead and encourage others to follow, otherwise any changes made may or may not occur unintentionally. Society is very much comprised of the implications television, theater, books, magazines, music and other forms of media invoke, this is culture. It is not brainwashing. Beauty is not a product of society, it is integrated into nature itself. If you suffer the consequences of letting your body deteriorate and become unattractive, you have nobody to blame but yourself.
This is what I told a young girl recently who seemed to be quite harsh on herself. I told her, focus on your mind, it’ll last longer. As for your body, try your best to keep it healthy, you have nowhere else to live and being healthy and smart is much more attractive. What does this have to do with video games? Not a damn thing. I can build a bridge though. Why are girls complaining that game designers model gorgeous and fit girls into their worlds? Do you think it would make sense to make Tomb Raider fat (although she is awfully skinny) and still bounce around the environments with acrobatic precision? Heroins are not lazy, they require muscle and in doing so are not often large in scale.
This is one of the many pictures that inspired this article, minus the cross outs. You are society. What society do we live in if everyone is saying this? A delusional one. How can you claim yourselves as individuals if you believe that these things shape your views and values? Don’t let yourselves be malleable by marketing. This is purely a sociological perspective, it has absolutely nothing to do with the theory of love and the consideration of human emotion. It is purely logic. Remember that marketing is constructed from society itself, they are only selling what you will buy.
In the simplest form, either extreme is unhealthy. The happy medium is to stay fit. Take care of yourself. Beauty in sociology is a mirage, it is social and environmental evolution.